We Need to Talk – Part 1 (Honesty and Openness)

Hey everyone. I can’t believe I’ve been blogging for six weeks already. Thank you so much for the comments and messages. They have been so encouraging.

Today I thought I’d have a little different tone, considering the topic. So grab a mug of hot liquid and a comfy chair.

We need to talk.

Remember all that slowing down we talked about last week? (Catch up here.) Well, one of the unfortunate (or fortunate, depending on how you look at it) side effects of slowing down is that it forces you to see things you couldn’t see before in all the blur.

When you actually take a look at where you are, how you think, and the way you treat other people, chances are it might be a whole lot worse than you thought it was. This was true for me, for sure.

So what do we do with that?

Well, we can try to stuff everything we notice back into a storage closet. Or, we can see the pile for what it is.

A mess. But a mess that points us to God.

The problem is that even if we decide not to deal with it, the avalanche waiting just behind the door will keep building until the hinges pop off. It will come out in some form, whether we like it or not.

But aren’t you tired of holding that door closed and pretending it doesn’t exist? Don’t you have this part of you than longs for acceptance? To be profoundly understood and immeasurably loved at the same time?

I know I do. Sometimes it aches, it’s so bad.

No matter how good my marriage is, how supportive my friendships are, or how affirming my family has been, my need is still there. Deep and cavernous.

God is the only one who can meet that need. I can try to fill it with other things and other people, but they will all inevitably fall short.

It’s God we want. Not perfect spouses. Not the approval of the masses. Nor anything else we fool ourselves into thinking will suffice.

The good news is, He wants you even more.

God’s not intimidated by the size of your pile or the type of stuff in it. He’s been running towards you long before you ever turned to Him.

Understanding that you’re truly dependent on God for everything, that He sees you completely and loves you eternally, gives you the courage to be honest.

Your heart is home. He’s never going to leave you. He’s in it for the long haul. You are profoundly understood and immeasurably loved by the Creator of everything that exists.

This knowledge acts like warm sunshine on our souls.

God bought you with His own Son while you were an enemy. The fact that you are flawed isn’t shocking to Him. He sees you and He always has. The good, the bad, the ugly, and the potential.

“But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved.”

Ephesians 2:4-5

We can spend years avoiding eye contact with ourselves, afraid of what we might see. But that’s no way to live.

Be honest about what you actually think. How you feel. How you act towards others. Lay it all out. Write it down even. Confess everything to the Lord.

Bring the dark, hidden areas of your life into the light so they can be healed.

Don’t worry about how God is going to sort through it all. Our job is to lay it before Him, acknowledging that He is the one who can.

We Need to Talk to Helpful People.

Some of us have buried hurts that are so tangled and so painful, parts we wish no one would ever see and don’t want to admit even to ourselves. The last thing we want to do is bring them to the open.

But friend, it’s time.

It’s time to get freedom from the thing that’s got you by the throat.

Being honest with yourself and with the Lord is essential. But it is difficult to grow if nobody has access to speak into your life.

Does anybody know how much you are struggling?

It is time to bring some people in.

Maybe that means therapy, maybe that means putting your protective masks aside and being vulnerable to your spouse. Or answering truthfully when someone you love asks how you are doing.

Unpacking is a process. Yes, it’s likely to be a huge mess. Yes, it will be incredibly humbling.

But being dependent on the Lord means acknowledging that you don’t have it all together. Go ahead and put that burden down. Put aside the pride that has kept you a silent hostage.

God has a plan for your life—and it isn’t to hide from everyone and struggle alone.

Maybe this idea feels terrifying. Maybe you feel completely inadequate for the path God is calling you to walk.

Can we be honest?

We are completely inadequate for the path God is calling us to walk—on our own.

But we aren’t on our own.

“It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; He will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”

Deuteronomy 31:8

This is what I know: There is not one millisecond of my life that goes by where God is not holding me up. I can run to Him with every single thing I struggle with. Every moment, every day.

I can open my heart to helpful people and let them speak truth into my life.

And you can too.


Give us the courage we need to leave our hiding places and step into the light of Your love. Thank you for Your grace that never fails.


8 thoughts on “We Need to Talk – Part 1 (Honesty and Openness)

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